Date Me Not

It has been said that some of the greatest ideas/inventions were thought about while tossing and turning in bed, late at night. This seems accurate, in the sense that I feel like my most honest blogs are right before I decide to call it a night, which if there is a time stamp on this entry, you will notice i am calling it quits early on a saturday due to playing 2 rounds of kings, and losing multiple card games the night before, but anyways the thought on my craziness of a brain i have in that skull of mine surrounds around molding. Weird wording choice and or statement i know, but please read on to understand my reasoning. I have always been taught/shown while growing up what the value of being independent is. The importance of not losing yourself while in social situations, dating, friendships, work, etc. I've been lucky enough to have a mother and father who are still together, and have been since high school and truly experienced how to make an honest relationship last. Now i know what some may be thinking, who are reading this, who are fortunate to know me, I don't have the best track record with relationships, but it doesn't mean i don't have the education to know what is right. Growing up, you get an opportunity to watch relationships, whether it be friends, distance aquaintances etc. Relationships are out in the open, good and bad. The one thing that I found consistent was the way two people, who were once independent of each other, would instantly mold themselves(please references the above sentence to sync the thinking) to impress the other. All of a sudden a certain food, clothing, music, phrase would be adopted and almost pushed in the open to make the point, that yes we are together. I strongly believe that what makes a relationship work and unique, and can be proven from my parents, is that what makes it interesting is not doing everything the same way, the same time, not trying to put on a show or prove a point that you are perfect for each other. I feel that once you lose yourself, lose who you were raised to be, who you are still molding into, you lose everything. I think its important to be content on being able to be alone. This includes not interacting with social media, texting, etc. It means just being, and being fine with it. Once this is conqured, and it does take work, I feel you are truly able to interact with another on a deeper level, in an honest, unique, and genuine way that works for both people in the relationship. Thats my two cents on the dating gig, for now. Enjoy and Cheers.