Sunday Soup for the Soul
I think one thing that a girl begins to think about after they venture over the 25 and above gap is their relationship with their father. Although this is not to say that relationship is not important in a girl’s life while growing up, it just begins to have a larger presence. One of the main reasons I feel is that this age begins the age of the weddings, whether your involved in a wedding or not, the mere presence whether it be through TLC, online videos, pinterest boards, the realness of that moment hits you---the day your father walks you down the isle.
To me this signifies a concrete moment that in a split second you go from being your father’s little girl to putting your trust in another male and cutting certain strings, this is a string that has many years of growth...and in an instant is intertwined. I think father/daughter relationships come in many forms, depending on his upbringing, values, and background.
His characteristics and ways of living his life will mold how both will interact. I think there is always, on all levels of the relationship a base of security and wanting to protect their little girl, whether they chose to publicize this openly or act when action is needed, the base is there. On the flip side i also feel there is a “holy **** I’m having a girl--how am i going to raise one of those” feelings. Although this feeling eventually subsides, security, love and shock mold the beginning walls of the bond. Personally growing up, I have been fortunate to have my father in my life as a constant mentor, supporter, and at times battle it outer :), but he has never left my side.
I think the most important and real relationships are the ones that don’t take work, and have underlying understandings on both ends. Knowing that your love doesn’t have to be a show, there doesn’t need to be constant hour to hour interaction, there doesn’t have to be forced conversation, and this is what i cherish most about my father. When the bond is real, little moments stand out, and these are cherished, these are what are valued, there is always quality over quantity.
The day you turn around to see your father in tears after hearing a success story a previous boss shares, your highschool graduation and the picture you still have by your bed stand showcasing your father with the proudest look on his face, the day you packed away to move to another country and his reaction before getting on the plane, remembering how he is always the first to introduce you to his friends as his daughter, driving you to your first boyfriends driveway and saying “Ok ab, here ya go” or him trying to figure out how to put the pieces back together when your first heart breaks”
These moments that someday, when I make that awkward venture down that long isle, and I’m shaking trying to control myself(which will happen) I’ll know I’ll have one of the strongest, reliable, protective, and constant rocks in my life by my side. We’ll always be us, and us is enough for me.
To me this signifies a concrete moment that in a split second you go from being your father’s little girl to putting your trust in another male and cutting certain strings, this is a string that has many years of growth...and in an instant is intertwined. I think father/daughter relationships come in many forms, depending on his upbringing, values, and background.
His characteristics and ways of living his life will mold how both will interact. I think there is always, on all levels of the relationship a base of security and wanting to protect their little girl, whether they chose to publicize this openly or act when action is needed, the base is there. On the flip side i also feel there is a “holy **** I’m having a girl--how am i going to raise one of those” feelings. Although this feeling eventually subsides, security, love and shock mold the beginning walls of the bond. Personally growing up, I have been fortunate to have my father in my life as a constant mentor, supporter, and at times battle it outer :), but he has never left my side.
I think the most important and real relationships are the ones that don’t take work, and have underlying understandings on both ends. Knowing that your love doesn’t have to be a show, there doesn’t need to be constant hour to hour interaction, there doesn’t have to be forced conversation, and this is what i cherish most about my father. When the bond is real, little moments stand out, and these are cherished, these are what are valued, there is always quality over quantity.
The day you turn around to see your father in tears after hearing a success story a previous boss shares, your highschool graduation and the picture you still have by your bed stand showcasing your father with the proudest look on his face, the day you packed away to move to another country and his reaction before getting on the plane, remembering how he is always the first to introduce you to his friends as his daughter, driving you to your first boyfriends driveway and saying “Ok ab, here ya go” or him trying to figure out how to put the pieces back together when your first heart breaks”
These moments that someday, when I make that awkward venture down that long isle, and I’m shaking trying to control myself(which will happen) I’ll know I’ll have one of the strongest, reliable, protective, and constant rocks in my life by my side. We’ll always be us, and us is enough for me.
-Keep it going and real.
xo-AA
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