Quarantining the Right to Just Be.

I’ve done my best to try and reassure those who seem to have fears, anxiety and strong concerns about our current situation, that all will be okay. I know it’s mess out there, I’m not naïve to what’s going on, because honestly how can you be. The news doesn’t even report on the weather in the morning, it’s straight to our main girl Corona, taking the spotlight from dawn to dusk.

I am in no way  taking what is going on lightly, or debating that lives are being lost at an insane rate, and will acknowledge that I as anyone else, gets the slight heart palpitations of uncertainty, worry, and fear, but hear me out for a second.

It’s there, its real, but I’ve learned, that through many tribulations I’ve personally gone through, the best way to get through, is to know there is a light at the end of the tunnel, that there is a lesson to be learned, and there is beauty in the current state we are all in.

So hear me out.

I believe that this situation, is larger then any of us, regardless of if you believe in a higher power, religion, or a stronger larger presences then yourself, I think this is a huge wake-up call, that we shouldn’t ignore. I think it’s the big guy above ( for me personally) reaching out, and begging us as a society to pause, take a break, and regroup. I again, am speaking only on my behalf, but I will not say it lightly when I acknowledge I do not think we as human beings have been treating each other as we should. I believe the main reason behind this is because we lost ourselves along the way.

We forgot what truly made us happy, as individuals, and I am talking beyond social media, social gatherings. We’ve let exterior motives, selfish gains, self-induced stress and anxiety, unhealthy habits, consume us, and take on a fake sense of happiness and worth. If we as individuals cannot take care of ourselves, and understand our uniqueness and genuity and truly remember who we are, how are we supposed to take care of others. We basically are creating a circle of chaos, and fake conversations, relationships, and ultimate heart break.

If we cannot simply be, alone, by ourselves, with our own thoughts, feelings, if we must rely on others for company, love, reassurance, we’re just going to go round and round in circles, and ultimately will always end up feeling lonely, when that thing, whether it be a person, substance, materialistic piece, is gone, and will then reach out desperately to find something else or someone else to fill that need.

I’ve been asked throughout the last few weeks if I’m lonely, ultimately because many know I do live by myself, and I think it needs to be said, that wherever you are, with whomever it is, whether you are alone or with family, that is exactly where you are meant to be. I really believe the big guy above, gives you what you need in any type of urgency or hard situation. If you are alone, believe me when I say its because you have built the strength within yourself that you are able to take this one. You have done the work, and it is nothing to feel ashamed or sorry for in the least, it’s something to be praised.

This is not to say people who are hunker-d down with families, spouses, loved ones and or pets are in-different to this analogy. I believe it means that you are given the blessing to re-engage with these people, maybe you have been running around insanely, maybe you were not able to just stop and have dinner together, maybe you just got a new pet just in time, that will help you through this. 

Everything is as is, and you are where you should be.

I want to put it out there, not as a challenge, but hopefully just an inspiration for people to truly take this time to get back to themselves. To remember what they enjoyed doing, even if its taking an hour to just unwind, taking the time to really take care of ourselves. Imagine how we would grow as individuals if we began to  understand self-love, and imagine what it would be like if we came out of this as better people, with understanding of what our self worth is, and in return will only treat others to the expectations that we hold for ourselves.

I know it’s not all roses and daisies right now, but in my mind, it eventually will be, so let’s try and take the steps to make it even brighter than it was before.

Kind thoughts, prayers, and tons of love to everyone.

Xo

Abby C Ashton.